8 Things you need to STOP doing
To-do lists are great. Lists can help with your productivity, and you’ll feel better as you tick off your accomplishments. But have you considered using a not to-do list, to help you build personal relationships and improve wellbeing? Here are 8 things that need to go on your not to-do list:
1. Don’t check your phone whilst talking to someone
We’ve all been there; you’re enjoying a pleasant conversation and you’re mid-flow, when your listener picks up their phone and starts scrolling. How rude!
This has been done to all of us, and we’ve probably all done this to someone else at some point; and the reaction is always the same. People will think you’re rude. If you want people to think more of you, be that person who stops, listens and responds during a conversation.
2. Don’t multitask during meetings
To be the smartest person in the room, you need to be the person who pays the most attention. By listening more carefully in meetings you’ll pick up agendas, ask questions and the people who matter will find you indispensable.
3. Don’t think about people who don’t matter
Whilst it may be a fun distraction, reading the latest gossip from the Kardashian clan won’t get you promoted. Dedicate your time to important people; your family, friends and employees. These are the people that deserve your time.
4. Don’t use multiple notifications
If you have notifications set up for emails, tweets, Facebook posts, or anything else that could pop up on your phone or computer, they will only serve as distractions.
If you’re doing something important, focus on it without interruptions. Occasionally check in, see what’s happening, then get right back to work.
5. Don’t allow the past to dictate your future
Mistakes make you who you are. Don’t let them affect your future, learn from them and let them go. Easier said than done? It all depends on your perspective – if you make a mistake and consider the ways you can learn from it, it will be a great opportunity. If you make a mistake and bury your head in the sand, you will never move on.
6. Don’t wait until you’re sure you’ll succeed
You can never be 100% sure that you’ll succeed at something new, but you can always feel that you have given something your best shot. Don’t wait. What have you got to lose?
7. Don’t be a gossip
It can be easy to fall into the whirlwind of office gossip, but wouldn’t it be better if you stepped up and talked to the person about the problem you’re having? If your colleagues were talking about you behind your bank, you’d want to know, and you’d want to fix the problem. So give others the opportunity to fix what’s going on.
8. Don’t say ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’
When you say yes to something you really don’t want to do, you might feel bad for a long time. But if you say no you’ll only feel bad for a few moments. Its might be uncomfortable, but people will understand, and if they don’t, do you really care what they think?